Let bygone be bygone. When you have had a terrible, traumatic or bad past it has the tendency to bring the pain and pangs of regret into the present. A bad past carries with it unpleasant memories which kills the joy of the present. It saps the energy needed to keep going in the present and this is a good way to mortgage your future on the altar of depression and discouragement. The fact that you have failed, messed up or fallen down in the past does not mean you cannot still make it. You can and will still make it. Don’t let your past limit you, don’t allow people’s opinion of your past put you down.
Friend, all you have done, all you are doing now and all you will ever do can be put in a bottle, the bottle labeled the past, present and future. The quality of your life and your success or otherwise is heavily hinged on how you handle this precious bottle. If you handle it right your chances of success are higher. If you mishandle it you will find yourself at the wrong end of life.
Many in this country have a problem handling the compartment of the bottle called “the past”. The past is very important and it has to be handled with care. One crucial fact you must understand is the fact that the past has gone forever. What you have done in the past is past. It is over.
You cannot go against the negative, self-center tide of life if you are not show of your identity, and so the first step is to recognize who you are. You cannot afford to have an identity crisis – not walking and living in the reality of who you really are. When one does not know who he/she is he/she automatically puts a limit over their life. They cannot be the best – the best he/she can be is a second best which is not good enough and the latter is what that is found amongst many in Liberia today. In short, knowing who you are gives you confidence.
Therefore, you need to understand that you cannot go through life ridding on the identity you have acquired from the opinion of people. When you begin to understand who you are you will understand the extent of the impact you can make with your life. At this point you will begin to understand that without you some people, groups, organizations, companies and the nation will experience declined quality – that without you others will not be or experience the very best they ought to. It is therefore crucial you wake up to your present-tense identity and stop walking in the shadows of others by imitating others and taking their names or attitudes.
It is important to note that you are on a mission, a mission to affect, influence and impact lives as well as make meaningful contribution to society. You, therefore, need to understand that you are alive to make a difference but this fact is not well understood by many in this country. You, including others, need to understand you are alive to leave indelible marks on the sands of time; that you are alive to make history and not just to pass through history – that you have not been called to conform but to transform your environment, to influence your society, to give direction, to stand out and to register maximum impact.
You will have to take the radical approach to living a life of significance, and this is about swimming upstream – swimming against the tide. If you are going to make any impact in life you must not conform to the general approach of the majority.
It is all who have done tangible or made indelible mark on this planet earth were sure of where they were going. They knew what they wanted. Knowing where you are going is a venture that begins with a dream and having a clear vision for it is those who know their destination and how to get there that rule the world. Unfortunately, many of our young people do not know their destination. They do not see the big picture of where they were yesterday, where they are now and where they want to be tomorrow so it is with our leaders in this country. Knowing your identity and having a strong desire to succeed will of course take you there.
(Chealy Brown Dennis is a much sought after motivational speaker and offers training in organizational leadership, and business development concept and planning, creative sales and marketing, strategic planning and team building. He also offers workbooks, on-location and train-the-trainer formats for leaders, managers, businesses and organizations. He can be contacted through email at: firstname.lastname@example.org or on phone at: 0886-264-611 or 0776545394)